Why is a beautiful girl with an excellent education, smart and attractive, is not married by the age of 35?? If you talk to her for even a few minutes, you note both her intelligence, her subtle self-irony, and her vast interests. So what's wrong with her?? Why does she meet a man, date him for two, three or even five years, but it doesn't lead to a happy marriage? And after a while, history repeats itself. And the relationship is there, and the man is again, and she is still beautiful and smart, but it all repeats again and after a while she is alone?
Of course, the reasons may be many. From his misrepresentation of himself as a woman, to the frequent mistakes she may make. However, assuming that she really is both smart and beautiful and behaves perfectly, there is another reason to consider.
One of the most common reasons, I would say, is the initial wrong choice of a partner. Often, when you meet a man and fall in love with him, a girl closes her eyes to the strongest disagreements, to his behavior or lifestyle. And she hopes that things will change. That he will change, or his job, his values, or you will just fall in love with him. And also, a girl often thinks, "yes, he's not perfect, but at least someone needs me. And if he does not exist, then no one will want me. And enter into this relationship hoping for a brighter future.
And even if he often drinks and hangs out with his friends until morning, she continues to hope for the best... Even if he's not working and isn't really burning to get a job, she's still hoping that the bad phase will pass and he'll get everything done. If he has a complicated character and behaves like a rabid or jealous animal, she tries to bring him up and again, again, keeps hoping that someday, everything will be fine.
Do not waste your time! Your attention 5 signs that a man does not suit you.
Different values. This is the very first thing to consider when you meet a man. If you have a highly developed value of family, and he does not consider it necessary to get married, and considers it an outdated social atavism, it is obvious that you will have problems in the future. Or, if you're basically ready for marriage, kids, and responsibility, and he spends half the year in Bali doing yoga, seeking enlightenment, and trying new asanas, your lives are going to be pretty hard to reconcile.
Another example. If he likes the nightlife, freedom and new acquaintances, you'll have to spend a lot of time waiting for him to wake up to the desire to take responsibility for his life, and most importantly, for the lives of those closest to him. And it's not certain that you'll wait. It also happens that he is so focused on work and career that he is ready to work there all day long, including weekends, evenings and holidays. If he puts work and work over the family, then be prepared that all the children's holidays you will be alone, on weekends, he will not see, and your family will be more like a cohabitation than a union of two loving people.
The most common option when she has decided: we are very different, but we love each other, and all will overcome. As a rule, after a few years, she, alone with her child, realizes that he is a complete stranger to her. That he has other hobbies, other values, other desires and goals.
So when you meet a man, go over the reference points: his attitude toward marriage and family, his attitude toward his loved ones (very telling!), his attitude toward work and money. And also his hobbies, interests and friends. If you have diametrically opposed views on most of these things, building a happy marriage will be difficult.
If he doesn't care about you. A man has to take care of a woman. It's a fact. If you have a headache and he's not willing to tear himself away from his Facebook correspondence (or even his work correspondence) to get pills, that's bad. If he doesn't care about your problems and isn't willing to help you with them, that's bad. If you work from early in the morning until late at night, and he gets up when he has to and lives on "what God sends," that's bad. If the last piece left on his plate he takes for himself without even asking if you want it, that's no good. If he buys expensive things for himself and only offers you cheap stores, that's bad.
There's a lot of examples. But the fact remains. A man who is serious, with whom you can build a long, fundamental and lasting relationship, will always take care of his girlfriend. He will solve her problems, he will rush over when she needs help, he would rather refuse to buy anything than leave his girlfriend without a gift. If your man is acting differently, think about it.
If he cheats on you on a regular basis. A man who is promiscuous in sexual relations will never be a good father and head of the family. It will always be a pretense. He'll hug you and tell you that you're his only one, but keep in mind that yesterday he may have said those words to someone else, and tomorrow he'll be saying them to a third person. And his family's not an impediment to that.
If you catch him or show him proof, he'll beg, swear, and promise never-never again.. But it won't be six months before it happens again. So the question for the girl is, is she willing to go through life knowing she is being cheated on, and endure it without throwing tantrums and scandals?? If yes, then don't read any further and move on to the next point. But if you don't, you know, a man-child will never change. You'll spend a few years believing it was the last time, but in the end, you can't take it anymore, and you'll leave. And you're right to do so. But the sooner the better.
If he has already asked you to break up. Or he'd say, "We're so different, I'm not sure what's going to work out. Or if he tried to go back to his ex-wife or girlfriend, having a relationship with you. In a word, if he has somehow already tried to break up or temporarily end the relationship with you, but you have convinced him not to do so. If he has built a picture in his head of life apart from you, it is very dangerous for your relationship. This is a man who can no longer be trusted.
You should build a family with a man you have complete confidence in. Have children with a man in whom you have complete confidence. Life is a very unpredictable thing. It has its difficult and wonderful moments.
And just imagine: if (God forbid) an accident happens to you, you lose temporary ability to work, or you need to take care of sick parents for a long time, putting your life in very serious limits, or if you have a child with a complex diagnosis, answer - can you be sure that this man will stay with you? That he won't leave you at a difficult moment in your life, if even at an easy, simple and trouble-free moment in your life he suggested that you break up? If he himself isn't sure he wants to be with you.
Why impose on him and talk him into continuing the relationship?? He may only agree to it because it's comfortable for him now and he's used to you. But if he meets someone who he thinks is better for him, he can just walk away without any remorse. So if a man is obviously not interested in a relationship with you and you're turning yourself inside out to keep it, quit screwing around and run away from him!
If you have children or a child from a previous relationship and he treats them poorly, disrespectfully, or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, run away! Remember, no normal man is not afraid of children. If a man loves a woman, he will love everything about her, including her children. If he's with a woman but doesn't accept her children, never betray your children, for the man's sake.
You can love and stop loving different men throughout your life, but you will never stop loving your children. If he treats your child badly, he's just not your man. Yours is walking around somewhere.
Do not think that getting married with a child is so hard that this one will do, even though he will never love your kitten, but "takes you with a child. On the contrary, if you have a child, you should create a family and a relationship where your child will see an example of how happy mom and dad can be.
Confucius had this saying: "The man who has long walked on his chosen and highest path, and then turned into a shady alley, will hang himself there on the first bough.
I wish you could find your man, the one you love the most, the one who's most dear and wonderful, and not be traded for those who will only bring you tears of disappointment.
I wish you happiness and a lot of love!
Author: Olga Kraynova
Why is a beautiful girl with an excellent education, smart and attractive, is not married by the age of 35?? If you talk to her for even a few minutes, you note both her intelligence, her subtle self-irony, and her vast interests. So what's wrong with her?? Why does she meet a man, date him for two, three or even five years, but it doesn't lead to a happy marriage? And after a while, history repeats itself. And the relationship is there, and the man is again, and she is still beautiful and smart, but it all repeats again and after a while she is alone?
Of course, the reasons may be many. From his misrepresentation of himself as a woman, to the frequent mistakes she may make. However, assuming that she really is both smart and beautiful and behaves perfectly, there is another reason to consider.
One of the most common reasons, I would say, is the initial wrong choice of a partner. Often, when you meet a man and fall in love with him, a girl closes her eyes to the strongest disagreements, to his behavior or lifestyle. And she hopes that things will change. That he will change, or his job, his values, or you will just fall in love with him. And also, a girl often thinks, "yes, he's not perfect, but at least someone needs me. And if he does not exist, then no one will want me. And enter into this relationship hoping for a brighter future.
And even if he often drinks and hangs out with his friends until morning, she continues to hope for the best... Even if he's not working and isn't really burning to get a job, she's still hoping that the bad phase will pass and he'll get everything done. If he has a complicated character and behaves like a rabid or jealous animal, she tries to bring him up and again, again, keeps hoping that someday, everything will be fine.
Do not waste your time! Your attention 5 signs that a man does not suit you.
Different values. This is the very first thing to consider when you meet a man. If you have a highly developed value of family, and he does not consider it necessary to get married, and considers it an outdated social atavism, it is obvious that you will have problems in the future. Or, if you're basically ready for marriage, kids, and responsibility, and he spends half the year in Bali doing yoga, seeking enlightenment, and trying new asanas, your lives are going to be pretty hard to reconcile.
Another example. If he likes the nightlife, freedom and new acquaintances, you'll have to spend a lot of time waiting for him to wake up to the desire to take responsibility for his life, and most importantly, for the lives of those closest to him. And it's not certain that you'll wait. It also happens that he is so focused on work and career that he is ready to work there all day long, including weekends, evenings and holidays. If he puts work and work over the family, then be prepared that all the children's holidays you will be alone, on weekends, he will not see, and your family will be more like a cohabitation than a union of two loving people.
The most common option when she has decided: we are very different, but we love each other, and all will overcome. As a rule, after a few years, she, alone with her child, realizes that he is a complete stranger to her. That he has other hobbies, other values, other desires and goals.
So when you meet a man, go over the reference points: his attitude toward marriage and family, his attitude toward his loved ones (very telling!), his attitude toward work and money. And also his hobbies, interests and friends. If you have diametrically opposed views on most of these things, building a happy marriage will be difficult.
If he doesn't care about you. A man has to take care of a woman. It's a fact. If you have a headache and he's not willing to tear himself away from his Facebook correspondence (or even his work correspondence) to get pills, that's bad. If he doesn't care about your problems and isn't willing to help you with them, that's bad. If you work from early in the morning until late at night, and he gets up when he has to and lives on "what God sends," that's bad. If the last piece left on his plate he takes for himself without even asking if you want it, that's no good. If he buys expensive things for himself and only offers you cheap stores, that's bad.
There's a lot of examples. But the fact remains. A man who is serious, with whom you can build a long, fundamental and lasting relationship, will always take care of his girlfriend. He will solve her problems, he will rush over when she needs help, he would rather refuse to buy anything than leave his girlfriend without a gift. If your man is acting differently, think about it.
If he cheats on you on a regular basis. A man who is promiscuous in sexual relations will never be a good father and head of the family. It will always be a pretense. He'll hug you and tell you that you're his only one, but keep in mind that yesterday he may have said those words to someone else, and tomorrow he'll be saying them to a third person. And his family's not an impediment to that.
If you catch him or show him proof, he'll beg, swear, and promise never-never again.. But it won't be six months before it happens again. So the question for the girl is, is she willing to go through life knowing she is being cheated on, and endure it without throwing tantrums and scandals?? If yes, then don't read any further and move on to the next point. But if you don't, you know, a man-child will never change. You'll spend a few years believing it was the last time, but in the end, you can't take it anymore, and you'll leave. And you're right to do so. But the sooner the better.
If he has already asked you to break up. Or he'd say, "We're so different, I'm not sure what's going to work out. Or if he tried to go back to his ex-wife or girlfriend, having a relationship with you. In a word, if he has somehow already tried to break up or temporarily end the relationship with you, but you have convinced him not to do so. If he has built a picture in his head of life apart from you, it is very dangerous for your relationship. This is a man who can no longer be trusted.
You should build a family with a man you have complete confidence in. Have children with a man in whom you have complete confidence. Life is a very unpredictable thing. It has its difficult and wonderful moments.
And just imagine: if (God forbid) an accident happens to you, you lose temporary ability to work, or you need to take care of sick parents for a long time, putting your life in very serious limits, or if you have a child with a complex diagnosis, answer - can you be sure that this man will stay with you? That he won't leave you at a difficult moment in your life, if even at an easy, simple and trouble-free moment in your life he suggested that you break up? If he himself isn't sure he wants to be with you.
Why impose on him and talk him into continuing the relationship?? He may only agree to it because it's comfortable for him now and he's used to you. But if he meets someone who he thinks is better for him, he can just walk away without any remorse. So if a man is obviously not interested in a relationship with you and you're turning yourself inside out to keep it, quit screwing around and run away from him!
If you have children or a child from a previous relationship and he treats them poorly, disrespectfully, or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, run away! Remember, no normal man is not afraid of children. If a man loves a woman, he will love everything about her, including her children. If he's with a woman but doesn't accept her children, never betray your children, for the man's sake.
You can love and stop loving different men throughout your life, but you will never stop loving your children. If he treats your child badly, he's just not your man. Yours is walking around somewhere.
Do not think that getting married with a child is so hard that this one will do, even though he will never love your kitten, but "takes you with a child. On the contrary, if you have a child, you should create a family and a relationship where your child will see an example of how happy mom and dad can be.
Confucius had this saying: "The man who has long walked on his chosen and highest path, and then turned into a shady alley, will hang himself there on the first bough.
I wish you could find your man, the one you love the most, the one who's most dear and wonderful, and not be traded for those who will only bring you tears of disappointment.
I wish you happiness and a lot of love!
Author: Olga Kraynova